Call me a sap, but I love my husband. We have been married for just over 18 months and I love him more and more every day. Right now, my husband is stuck in Chicago overnight because his train from Washington was delayed over 5 hours. He was supposed to get a connector to Michigan but now has to sleep in the station to catch a morning train to a town an hour from the one he needs. There is only one train per day to our hometown and it leaves at 5:20pm and often doesn't reach home until midnight or later. Poor Baby.
He left on Sunday at 4:30am after the train was 3 hours late. Needless to say, neither of us got much sleep over the weekend. So he has been gone two days and I miss him terribly. We have only been apart a few nights since we have been married and never more than 2 in a row.
I may seem pathetic, but I have reasons. We dated off and on for over 5 years. During that time, we lived in the same town for three months. That's it. Out of 5 years! Long distance relationships aren't for everyone. We handled ours rather well. In fact, it suited us most of the time. I was in school for three of those years and he was working on his post doc. Neither of us had much time for dating, which we don't care for anyway; but we did have time to send emails and for short visits. It was perfect... until we got engaged. Then the distance was just distance. Luckily, it was a short engagement (which will hopefully make for a long marriage!).
But now that we are married, I want to see him every day. I love that he makes me coffee every morning and brings it to me in bed. I love that he makes breakfast for me on the weekends and that he often will walk with me to work. He even visits me at work for lunch sometimes because I work just off of the campus where he teaches. It's wonderful. Whenever he comes home from work or an errand, I run to the door and say, "My husband's home!" Then I patiently wait for him to un-bundle and kiss me. He is very affectionate and I love that I can cheer him up even after a hard day.
We are traveling separately this holiday season. He has a month off but I could only get a few days. So, to save money he took the train early and won't return until after the new year while I am flying home Christmas Eve and returning a couple days later. It means 5 alone days on this side of Christmas and 10 on the other side. We'll even miss spending New Year's Eve together.
That's a funny story, too. He and I have been friends since we were 10. We met in Sunday School- best place to find guys, let me tell you! We became really close when he moved to Colorado for grad school. Once again, long distance enriched our friendship because we began to email weekly. My husband is not one for chit chat and often has a hard time with "in person" conversations unless they are subject driven. But he thrives online. He can write an email or even a letter like no one else. His emails were so funny that I used to print them out and read them to my best friend so we could both get a laugh.
Sometime during our college years, we began a tradition of getting together every New Year's Eve in the afternoon (so... New Year's pre-Eve) for lunch or a movie. We called them our New Year's Eve day dates. We had 7 of them in 8 years (one year I was dating someone who didn't want me to go. Understandably so.). They were fun and often flirty. We have only had one since and that was last year. All through our actual dating relationship, we spent New Year's Eve in separate cities. That will be true this year as well.
I was single until I was 35, so I know how to be alone. But I also appreciate my husband all the more because of all that single time. I hoping to spend many, many New Year's Eves with him... and hopefully, travel with him in future.
